ISBN: 0-8254-2693-6
PRICE: $10.99 US; 15.99 CA
PUBLISHER: Kregel Publications
FULL TITLE: Honey, I Don't Have a Headache Tonight: Help for women who want to feel more "in the mood".
AUTHOR: Sheila Wray Gregoire
PAGES: 174

When it comes to intimacy, married couples are often not on the same page. In your new book, Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight, you tackle the differences between men and women in hopes of bridging the gap and getting marriages back on track. Why is intimacy such a tough and sometimes heated discussion for so many couples?

How is intimacy often a "head thing" for women, and what are some of the things that conspire to rob women of the mood? What advice do you offer?

We all know that men and women are different, but what are some of the most problematic differences in the closeness factor?

So what’s the first step to understanding our significant other?

You say that most women yearn for a lower-stress sex life. What do you mean?

How does popular culture often throw a wrench in our relationships?

In Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight, you state that the biggest enemy to a healthy sex life is television. How so?

The inherent differences between men and women are God inspired. You say, "the way God designed it, we’re creating true intimacy as we meet each other’s needs." Please explain.

Society claims that if we don’t feel fulfilled and totally happy, the marriage is meaningless. You say that this puts incredible pressure on marriage. In Chapter 2 you write, "Ironically, our very reasons for getting married can contribute to our sexual problems. Over the last century, marriage has evolved from something that provided security to something that was supposed to provide fulfillment." Explain the problem with this way of thinking.

Talk with us a little about our attitudes – how they relate to marriage, love and even holiness. Why is it that we sometimes have to begin the process of attitude change for the health of our marriage?

How does marriage illustrate God’s character? How does it keep us from sin?

In Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight, you tell us that in committing to marriage, we have to commit to change as well. Share some of the more common areas of change that will enhance the relationship.

One of the biggest libido destroyers is exhaustion. You share a survey done by Mead Johnson in 2000 that found 80% of women reported feeling more tired than they had five years ago and 83% of them reported feeling "tired and weak" as their number one health complaint. Why such an increase? And what are some of the solutions you outline for recharging our batteries?

In Chapter 4, you outline some of the most common threats to Godly sexuality. Briefly, share these with us. (Pornography, Abuse, Promiscuous Past, Puritanism)

Respect is an important component in the marriage partnership. What are some of "our" self-inflicted roadblocks to respect? What about "their" (husbands/kids) roadblocks to respect?

In daily life, what’s the difference between a burden and a load? And what does it have to do with respect?

Women yearn for romance, men don’t always understand that need or for that matter, really understand what romance is. What are the two elements of romance that women crave?

You write, "Though we may wish for romance where we’re the ones pampered and flattered, increasing your romance quotient may require that we start the flattery bandwagon ourselves. You say that we must learn to reach out to our husbands in a way that speaks his language." What are some of the ways to meet him on his turf?

Chapter 7 deals with the cultural attack on gender. What does it mean to reclaim our femininity and support his masculinity?

Becoming one is the true essence of marriage. What are some of the factors that destroy mutuality?

Chapter 8 begins with a stark, but true quote, "We cannot complete a book on sex without dealing with one of the "biggest" obstacles to our libido: catching a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror." What happens when we don’t measure up to our expectations and how do we learn to embrace our bodies?

Tell us about your "weight reality check" and the four faulty premises that we cling to.

In the book you tell us that prayer is one of the best tools for switching on our libidos. Explain how it works.

A big intimacy killer is "indecision" and it plagues many women. Talk with us a little about this issue.

How might someone obtain a copy of your book, Honey, I Don’t Have a Headache Tonight?